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Questions to Ask a Guy on a First Date

Want to really get to know him? These questions to ask a guy on a first date go beyond surface-level chat. From fun and flirty to deep and meaningful, these questions help you figure out if he’s worth a second date. Want these personalised for your date? Try our question generator.

Easy Openers (Questions 1–10)

10 questions
  1. What’s the best thing that happened to you this week?
  2. What are you passionate about outside of work?
  3. How would your best friend describe you?
  4. What’s the last show you binge-watched?
  5. Are you a morning person or a night owl?
  6. What kind of music are you into right now?
  7. What’s the best trip you’ve ever taken?
  8. Do you cook, or are you a takeout person?
  9. What’s something you’re looking forward to?
  10. What do you do for fun on weekends?

Getting to Know You (Questions 11–20)

10 questions
  1. What’s a skill you’d love to learn?
  2. What’s your go-to comfort food?
  3. If you could live anywhere for a year, where?
  4. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve done?
  5. What book or podcast has stuck with you?
  6. What’s your favourite way to spend a rainy day?
  7. What’s on your bucket list?
  8. What’s something most people don’t know about you?
  9. What makes you laugh the hardest?
  10. What’s your hidden talent?

Going Deeper (Questions 21–35)

15 questions
  1. What does a meaningful life look like to you?
  2. What’s something you’re proud of that has nothing to do with work?
  3. What’s the bravest thing you’ve ever done?
  4. What values matter most to you?
  5. How do you handle tough days?
  6. What’s a lesson you learned the hard way?
  7. What does home mean to you?
  8. Do you think people can truly change?
  9. What makes you feel truly seen?
  10. What’s a fear you’ve overcome?
  11. What does vulnerability mean to you?
  12. What do you wish more people asked you about?
  13. When do you feel most like yourself?
  14. What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
  15. What are you still figuring out about yourself?

Romantic & Fun (Questions 36–50)

15 questions
  1. What’s your love language?
  2. What does your ideal date look like?
  3. How do you know when you’re falling for someone?
  4. What’s a small gesture that means a lot to you?
  5. What’s the most romantic thing you’ve experienced?
  6. If you could have dinner with anyone, who?
  7. What fictional world would you live in?
  8. What’s your karaoke song?
  9. Dogs or cats?
  10. What’s the funniest thing that’s happened to you recently?
  11. If your life was a movie, what genre?
  12. What’s a trend you refuse to follow?
  13. What song makes you think of love?
  14. What would make tonight the perfect date?
  15. What’s one thing about you that you hope someone will love?

Tips for Using These Questions

  • Start with the easy openers and work your way deeper
  • Share your own answers — conversation is a two-way street
  • Skip anything that doesn’t feel natural in the moment
  • Follow up on interesting answers rather than rushing to the next question

Frequently asked

No! Pick 10–15 that feel right and let the conversation guide you. Quality beats quantity.

Great — that means you don’t need the list. Use these as backup, not a script.

Absolutely. They work just as well on Zoom, FaceTime, or any video call.

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